Newspaper article Gympie Times, The Qld.

Stop the Violence; Attitudes Changing for Better

Newspaper article Gympie Times, The Qld.

Stop the Violence; Attitudes Changing for Better

Article excerpt

DOMESTIC violence has come a long way since I experienced it in the late '60s and '70s.

At least now it is talked about amongst people... it sure wasn't when I was in the middle of it; not even to one's parents, for "domestic violence doesn't happen in good families" was what we were told and one never ever told anyone. In fact, we would probably die before we did.

My first husband started drinking after we had two children and he got mixed up with older men who travelled with him on the long trip from the Blue Mountains to Sydney for work.

He started being violent when I said anything about what had happened to make him late. Later we moved nearer to the City, and having only one car with both of us working we had to share the car to get to and from work.

I often sat in the car for hours on end, next to a public phone so I could phone the children and see how they were going (now had four, aged 14 down to five).

He was obviously drunk the night he crashed the car while I sat for hours in the closed office, where I worked, waiting for him to pick me up, but police did not charge him.

If they had it could have saved our marriage and him going into a terrible life of being a drunk, using drugs, sleeping around, and all that violence, a person with two faces - one a violent drunk (if offended) and the other the nice guy.

If they had arrested him and he had to appear in court he would have been embarrassed and maybe I would have been able to share with others how violent he was at home, how often he waited for the kids to go to sleep before doing terrible things to me.

I know one night after he had fallen into a drunken sleep after assaulting me, I got the old air rifle we had and thought how easy it would be to end it all by putting it against his head and pulling the trigger.

I couldn't hit a cow unless it was side-on, but point blank would have been different. However, I decided it wasn't worth going to jail for and leaving the kids to the care of others, so I smashed the gun to bits. …

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