Newspaper article Sunshine Coast Sunday (Maroochydore, Australia)

Find the Time to Work on Intimacy; Sex Coach Says Couples Run the Risk of Falling out of Love

Newspaper article Sunshine Coast Sunday (Maroochydore, Australia)

Find the Time to Work on Intimacy; Sex Coach Says Couples Run the Risk of Falling out of Love

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Byline: SCOTT SAWYER

WITH Valentine's Day looming ever larger on the horizon, Coast intimacy coach Pauline Ryeland says it is a good time for couples to work on tightening their bonds.

The certified Tantra teacher, sex coach and educator said a recent survey she had found showed there were more than 1.7 million Australian men and women in sexless marriages.

Coupling that figure with the high divorce rate, Ms Ryeland said it was important that couples learnt to shut down if they want to get down.

Technology, kids, work and a plethora of other commitments eating away at the time dedicated to one another was one of the key catalysts for a decline in intimacy in couples, she said.

As time together slipped away, so too did the ability to communicate with each other properly, driving distance between couples.

Ms Ryeland, who works with both individuals and couples, believes there are key strategies that can help people reconnect with their significant others.

"I think a lot of it is people just don't know how to talk about it (their intimacy needs)," she said.

"A lot of it is our cultural upbringing. It (sex) is taboo on so many levels.

"(After time) a little bit of the practicality sets in too. Sleep becomes a priority. Life does get in the way."

The key to maintaining or rebuilding a connection, Ms Ryeland said, was to sit down and work out shared goals, as well as undergo "relationship audits", to check in with each other and try to create "intimacy windows" in busy schedules. …

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