Newspaper article The Florida Times Union

Nothing Better Than Female Friends; We Can Love Our Husbands, but Our Friends Are Who Get Us through It All

Newspaper article The Florida Times Union

Nothing Better Than Female Friends; We Can Love Our Husbands, but Our Friends Are Who Get Us through It All

Article excerpt

Byline: Dorothy Cernik

Now that I'm a grandmother, I look back at my life from school days, through dating and marriage and raising children, and realize that without a lot of supportive women in my life, I might not have made it. During one of my early, more stressful periods, I remember groaning to a friend, "I could probably get along without my husband easier than without my women friends." She agreed, wholeheartedly. We had been through a lot together - children's idiosyncrasies, husbands' idiocy, job irrationality and health alarms - and we had helped each other maintain our sanity in these otherwise insane situations.

Women and their friendships became even more important as I grew older, critical to my life spiritually, emotionally and even physically. It was and is women who share religious experiences with sisterly connections, who encourage us to exercise when we are too tired or too unmotivated to get up off the couch. It's women who were there to help us through our pre-teen's puberty with the mantra "hormones, hormones, hormones" and who now help us as we cope with hot flashes and night sweats with the same mantra, "it's hormones!"

Women know that it takes fortitude, guts, a friend with a glass of wine and time to listen to keep us going when we are sandwiched between the demands of home and work or the needs and hassles of our grown children as well as aging parents. Female friends understand our need to "vent" so we can get on with our daily responsibilities; that voicing our frustrations doesn't mean we need them to solve our problems, just listen to them.

Husbands, on the other hand, are distracted by our moods and frustrated by our ability to talk about more than one thing at a time. As we raised our children, they rarely understood the multitude of minutiae that we had to keep in our heads: work schedules, Little League schedules, school schedules, doctors, dentists and whether his shirts are at the dry cleaners or on the floor of the car. Does the dog get shots this month or do the kids? …

Search by... Author
Show... All Results Primary Sources Peer-reviewed

Oops!

An unknown error has occurred. Please click the button below to reload the page. If the problem persists, please try again in a little while.