Newspaper article The Evening Standard (London, England)

The Mother of All Questions -- Do I Want a Baby? PODCASTS DJ Kate Lawler Is Paralysed by Indecision over Having Kids -- So She's Asking the Experts on a New Show, Says Katie Strick

Newspaper article The Evening Standard (London, England)

The Mother of All Questions -- Do I Want a Baby? PODCASTS DJ Kate Lawler Is Paralysed by Indecision over Having Kids -- So She's Asking the Experts on a New Show, Says Katie Strick

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Byline: Katie Strick

KATE LAWLER is getting married next year, but first there's an issue she needs to address: "To baby or not to baby? That is the question," laughs the Virgin Radio presenter, 39. "For the first time I'm thinking time isn't on my side. It has to be now or never."

The Big Brother winner, DJ and host of Virgin's drivetime show has never wanted children, but her fiance, Martin (nicknamed Boj), has other ideas. "Boj is keen to be a dad," says Lawler, who is engaged to her boyfriend of six years. "I always told him that I didn't want one, but he thought I'd change my mind."

Lawler had never met another woman who feels the same -- until she started a podcast about it. Maybe Baby launched last month and hears Lawler, Boj and celebrity friends explore every aspect of having children, from conception to dealing with toddlers. They plan to make a decision in the final episode.

"Not everyone wants to be a mum, but there's still this huge stigma about not wanting to have kids," says Lawler. "When I said that in my 20s people would laugh and say I'd change my mind. Then, in my early 30s, they'd ask why. Now I just get 'you don't want to leave it too late' -- they don't realise how insulting that can be."

Her most common frustration is being asked who's going to look after her when she's older, "which bugs the s**t out of me, because for a start there are no guarantees that you're even going to get on with your parents. You should not be having a child because you want someone to look after you. It's got to be because you want your life to change now."

It's a serious topic, but Lawler wants to make the podcast as light-hearted as possible "to soften the blow". Guests range from comedians to mum bloggers. Highlights include ITV's This Morning presenter Alison Hammond on giving birth; Russell Kane on being a single man; and Lawler's own parents on the realities of having a caesarean. …

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