Newspaper article The Christian Science Monitor

Making Toast

Newspaper article The Christian Science Monitor

Making Toast

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Roger Rosenblatt's hauntingly lovely memoir explores life as his family must live it after the death of his adult daughter.

I recently unearthed a childhood photo album and spent some time

flipping through it, gazing at half-forgotten faces and remembering

random stories. Seeing my best friend and me at various ages and in

different places, I remembered so much about her just by looking at

our twin smiles.

Roger Rosenblatt's Making Toast, a hauntingly lovely memoir about

life after the death of his 38-year-old daughter Amy, has the same

effect. Reading "Making Toast" is like perusing a family photo

album in which there are conspicuously empty pages. The book is a

collection of moments in the year and a half after Amy suddenly dies,

and sometimes her presence is felt so strongly that it's as if

you're looking at a family photo with her head neatly trimmed out.

After Amy's death from heart failure, Rosenblatt and his wife,

Ginny, move in with their son-in-law and three grandchildren: Jessie,

Sammy, and James. The six, whose lives relied so unthinkingly on

Amy's effusive love, learn to lean on each other as they take up

strange new roles.

As the sole mother figure in the house, Ginny, a pragmatic and

even-keeled woman, moves into the mother role seamlessly, so much so

that she tells her husband in wonder, "I think my whole life has

led up to this moment." She cooks for Harris, Amy's husband;

tucks the children in; sings nursery rhymes with James; cheers for

Jessie at soccer games. "Now, in sorrow, she is in her element,"

Rosenblatt observes. Ginny's reaction is similar: "'I am

leading Amy's life,' she says in despair yet comfort, too."

For others, however, the transition isn't so easy. Seven-year- old

Jessie keeps her feelings under wraps, occupying herself with school,

friends, and sports. She cracks only once, sobbing, "It's not

fair!" when she sees "all the mothers present but her own" at

the Fourth of July family reunion. James, the 2-year-old who goes by

"Bubbies," becomes more aware of his missing mother as he grows

older, awaking in tears and calling for her.

Sammy, the practical and intelligent 5-year-old who found Amy's

body, matter-of-factly shoulders the burden of having seen his mother

dead. …

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