Why are we always so fascinated by other people's marriages?
"We flip through magazine articles about celebrity breakups at
the dentist's office, or carefully deconstruct the tension between a
couple at a dinner party," notes author and cultural commentator
What are we looking for? Some essential knowledge about
ourselves? Answers to deeper riddles about life and love? Maybe it's
simply that "marriage is perpetually interesting," as Roiphe writes,
as "it is the novel that most of us are living in."
But whatever the reason, if there ever was a thinking person's
excuse to read about the marriages of others, it's found in Roiphe's
intelligent, absorbing Uncommon Arrangements: Seven Portraits of
Married Life in London Literary Circles 1910 - 1939.
In some ways, Roiphe's book is the sequel to Phyllis Rose's
excellent "Parallel Lives." But while Rose studied the marriages of
Victorian writers, Roiphe has chosen literary unions formed between
1910 and 1939.
It was an electric time, both heady and messy, vibrant with new
ideas. And that's exactly the state of the seven marriages Roiphe
observes: heady, messy, and, all too often, doomed by the very bold
ideas that spawned them.
Might not monogamy be a form of hypocrisy? they asked. Why not
invent a fresher, freer form of union? It was, to borrow a title
from one of Mansfield's short stories, an experiment with "marriage
a la mode." And so, although each pair Roiphe examines is utterly
unique, a common thread of botched idealism runs throughout all
Essayist and author H.G. Wells and his long-suffering wife Jane
tried to live the illusion that his constant infidelities would not
bother her as long as they discussed them openly. Short story writer
Katherine Mansfield and editor John Middleton Murray played at a
responsibility-free union reminiscent of childhood.
Rather than settling for a union with just one partner, Vanessa
Bell, sister of Virginia Woolf, set up a household so complex that
"at times one needed a chart like the one at the beginning of a
Russian novel to keep them all straight."
Socialite and literary groupie Ottoline Morrell (perhaps the
inspiration for "Lady Chatterly's Lover") cheated freely on her
politician husband but was shattered when he confessed infidelity to
her, not unlike lesbian novelist Radclyffe Hall, who tortured her
faithful partner with her dalliances, only to end up devastated by
another who wouldn't commit to her. …