Newspaper article St Louis Post-Dispatch (MO)

Those Poor Coaches Deserve a Break

Newspaper article St Louis Post-Dispatch (MO)

Those Poor Coaches Deserve a Break

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Dear Ann Landers: I must respond to your advice to "The Coach's Wife in New York." You missed an opportunity to educate your readers and promote understanding among sports fans everywhere.

My husband has been a football coach all our married life. He started at the high school level and now coaches an NFL team. I agree that Coach's Wife needs to toughen up and let the insults roll off her back, but when people scream obscenities at your husband, you resent it.

What most folks don't realize is that coaches work 12 to 18 hours a day, seven days a week, often eight months a year. They miss their children's birthday parties and school plays and their own sons' football games. They have the most precarious job security of any profession in the country. Too many losses and they're fired. The coach's work is judged by thousands of fans, and if you include TV viewers, it could be millions.

Fans pay their money, and they have a right to express themselves, but personal attacks on coaches and players can cut to the bone.

So before you scream insults, think how you would feel if it were your son or brother out there. And be aware that the coach's kids may be sitting two rows down and that's their father you are cussing out.


I received hundreds of letters from women whose husbands, sons and brothers are coaches, all pleading for understanding. I hope this column helps.


Dear Ann Landers: A month ago, my husband and I were invited to a surprise 30th birthday party for a longtime friend. The invitation came from her husband, "Terry." We accepted, assuming it would be at their home.

The next day, Terry called to say the party would be at a restaurant some distance from where we live. I was impressed that he chose such an expensive place but not surprised because he's fairly well off. …

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