Newspaper article St Louis Post-Dispatch (MO)

She's Fat and Happy, and Resists Counseling

Newspaper article St Louis Post-Dispatch (MO)

She's Fat and Happy, and Resists Counseling

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Dear Ann Landers: I read your answer to "Deprived and Bitter," the woman whose husband was too heavy to have sex. You said anyone who is 100 pounds overweight needs some serious counseling.

I beg to differ. Why does everyone assume that an overweight person is a weak-willed slob who can't keep food out of his or her mouth? I know many "fatties," and we are happy people who would love to be thin. Most of us have tried to lose weight, and often we succeed, but it always comes back - partly because we are not willing to give up eating the things we enjoy. We know this.

I am a woman, in my mid-50s, and am almost 100 pounds overweight. I have been on every diet known to man. Each time, I've gained back more than I lost. But I have a wonderful husband and children who love me for what I am.

My health is good, and I am rarely sick. I do have high blood pressure, which is controlled by medication, but so did my father, who was normal-sized. I know the health risks of being overweight, but I also feel my body cannot take the large ups and downs of 60- and 70-pound weight losses and gains.

I have been trying for the last couple of years to eat "normally" and have succeeded moderately well, but I'm still overweight. Two of my three sisters are also large women. We have determined that this is just the way we are and we will continue to take good care of ourselves and enjoy life. Life's too short to worry about what other people think of us.

Now, if you still think I need counseling, please tell me why, and I'll be glad to get it.



Anyone who is 100 pounds overweight and has high blood pressure is sure to develop health problems down the road. If it's not the heart, it will be a stroke or severe problems with the legs and feet. You DO need counseling, but I doubt that it would be effective because you are much too defensive and your mind is not only closed but nailed shut. …

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