Newspaper article The Christian Science Monitor

Getting along with Parents A Spiritual Look at Issues of Interest to Young People

Newspaper article The Christian Science Monitor

Getting along with Parents A Spiritual Look at Issues of Interest to Young People

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Have you ever felt that your parents are too difficult to deal with? Maybe you think your discussions with them go one way - and they're doing all the talking. It's frustrating when people won't listen to what you have to say or consider your point of view.

What can you do in those moments? You can listen to God. You can listen for what will bring solutions.

One time my dad and I got into a very bad argument. We just didn't see eye to eye on whatever it was we were talking about. Suddenly, he was furious, yelling and throwing things around. In the past, I have to admit, I might have just yelled right back or ignored him. But I had been praying a lot about our arguments, and this time I just felt in my heart that there was no cause for the anger. I stayed calm and quiet. I prayed right there. I did my best at that moment not to think of him as anything but God's loving child. I told my dad that I thought it was OK for us to have different opinions. It didn't mean we had to be mad at each other. Or that I was rejecting him or his standards. And I could hardly believe it. He calmed right down! And that was a real turning point in our relationship. Healing a family rift in this way means loving and respecting one another. That's easy enough to say, I know. But it takes recognizing that God is the only legitimate motivator of us all - which isn't always easy. And parents, because they are God's children, deserve respect. Even if you know love is not the basis from which they're acting at a given moment, your actions toward them can still be loving. This never means needing to just endure harsh words or abuse. But even if the hurt you feel someone has caused is deep, that person is still God's child. Praying can help you find ways to express love for that person - and yourself - even in the most impossible moments. God gives each of us dignity. God's love is right where you are. It is dignifying, genuine, and kind. Keeping this in mind brings the strength to stay calm, listen for Him, and act thoughtfully. Ending anger usually involves ending fear, and fear can be subtle. …

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