Newspaper article St Louis Post-Dispatch (MO)

The High Cost of Breaking Family Ties

Newspaper article St Louis Post-Dispatch (MO)

The High Cost of Breaking Family Ties

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A recent letter by British retired Royal Navy Officer Nick Crews to his adult children chastising about their failures in life and treatment of their parents caught my attention.

Crews sent an email to his three children and ended it by stating he had enough of being forced to live through the never-ending bad dream of our childrens underachievement and domestic ineptitudes. I want to hear no more from any of you until, if you feel inclined, you have a success or an achievement.

Any parent can identify with Crews frustration, as we all have our own moments, but going so far as to slash any contact with your children is counterproductive and breaking the social fabric of the society.

Nick Crews is frustrated by his childrens failed marriages, not very successful careers. We are constantly regaled with chapter and verse of the happy, successful lives of the families of our friends and relatives and being asked of news of our own children and grandchildren, he wrote. I wonder if you realise how we feel we have nothing to say which reflects any credit on you or us.

I dont know all the issues faced by Crews family but believe according to my faith that you cannot break kinship relationships.

The Quran says: But if you held command, you were sure to make mischief in the land and cut off the ties of kinship. Those it is whom God has cursed.

Every relationship, especially with the adult children, has its trying times. We relive our ambitions, dreams through our children.

Our obligations start from the time of the birth of the child. We provide food, shelter, education to best of our abilities.

But the even more important rights of our children is unconditional love, advice regarding the ups and downs of life, and holding their hands through rough times.

We can find many people around us who have stopped talking, interacting with some relative or relatives for years. At times they have even forgotten the reason they broke the relationship. Only the bitterness lingers.

We miss out on being part of their happy and sad moments. …

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