Newspaper article Pittsburgh Post-Gazette (Pittsburgh, PA)

Grandma Should Move Past Wedding Photo Oversight

Newspaper article Pittsburgh Post-Gazette (Pittsburgh, PA)

Grandma Should Move Past Wedding Photo Oversight

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DEAR MARY ANN: My question concerns my grandson's wedding, specifically, photographs taken at the church following the ceremony. After the ceremony, my husband and I went through the traditional receiving line, then proceeded outside to where photos were being taken and many guests were mingling. We stayed there approximately 15-20 minutes, then decided to head to the reception.

As we went through the receiving line, neither my daughter nor the bride's parents mentioned the fact that we were to stay for photos in the church. As we lingered outside, no one from either family approached us to let us know that we should stay. We found out about the photos after getting to the reception hall when my daughter arrived. Shortly thereafter, the bride's mother approached us to let us know that we were supposed to stay. There was a photo taken later of us with the bride and groom during the reception.

I was very insulted that no one took even a few seconds as we walked through the receiving line to let us know to stay for photographs. A few seconds are all it took! Additionally, the bride's grandparents were part of the receiving line and again, we were not asked to participate in that either. The wedding took place in [the summer], but I am still upset that we were so blatantly ignored in the picture taking at the church and being in the receiving line. To be ignored for the receiving line was one thing, but the photographs is another.

The bride's mother said it was a matter of miscommunication when informing us at the reception that we were to stay. I would like to know just where was the miscommunication in the situation when the opportunity was right there for anyone in the bride's family, my daughter or anyone in the wedding party? The whole incident just really put a damper on the rest of my evening at the reception. As I said, I was insulted and hurt and am wondering if my feelings were justified.


DEAR GRANDMA: You are hurt because you were excluded. Someone should have told you a family picture was going to be taken at the church before you left for the wedding reception. As much as the oversight stings, you are going too far if you interpret your exclusion as a personal insult. …

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