Newspaper article Manchester Evening News

Mum Backed for Saying 'It's OK to Not Feel OK'

Newspaper article Manchester Evening News

Mum Backed for Saying 'It's OK to Not Feel OK'

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A PREGNANT mum's honest post about it being 'OK not to be OK' has struck a chord with thousands.

Rachael Hambleton, better known online as mummy blogger Part-Time Working Mummy, shares the ups and downs of life with her five children and husband Josh.

But her most recent Facebook post has hit home with thousands of followers, after she shared her perinatal mental health struggles. In it, she talks about five questions asked by her midwife - including whether she felt down or depressed, had little interest or pleasure in things, or felt nervous or anxious.

Despite wanting to answer "no", it was her husband who answered "yes" on her behalf.

And despite Rachael fearing the worst - that the midwife would think she "was crazy" and her "parenting would be put under a microscope" - she says admitting her feelings was the best thing she could have done.

Struggling with similar feelings in previous pregnancies, she admits: "The truth is that right now I'm not ok."

In her post, which has had more than 17,000 interactions in less than two days, she says: "So actually this time I'm not going to pretend I'm ok, and it doesn't matter why I'm not ok, I don't need to justify it with reasons or excuses, I'm just not ok....and by admitting I'm not ok I get support, and support means I have more chance of feeling better...

"....and by admitting it here, publicly, to other people, it means they may see that it really is ok not to be ok, and by me sharing my s*** I hope I could save someone else who is lying like I did...because right now, in our society, it's far easier to pretend we're ok and secretly drown than it is to admit we're not and get help and support."

Manchester mum Kate Shaw spoke to the M.E.N. about her own battle with two bouts of post-natal depression that she was too afraid to talk about.

The mum-of-three, who helps run a support group for mums facing the same struggles, praised Rachael for speaking out. …

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