I want to acknowledge the generosity of others. Early publishing advice came from Rowena McDade, M.S.W. Suggestions on the proposal came from Kathleen Slomski, M.B.A., and actual editing was done by Lee Rodin, M.S.W., and Fred Shafer, M.A. Good friends and talented colleagues read and critiqued the manuscript in different stages. Gloria Gallo, Ph.D., read the chaotic early draft and gave me the encouragement I badly needed. Very helpful comments came from Ellen Dresner, L.S.W., Hedda Leonard, Anita Adams, M.B.A., and my literary agent, Loretta Weingel-Fidel. Lisa Stolley, M.A., gently edited a later draft of the manuscript. Maria Fay, Peg White, M.L.S., and Steve Schmidt, M.L.S., librarians extraordinare, helped with final drafts. Martha Cristensen worked on the index. Charlie Waehler, Ph.D., also living with a book, and Margit Kir-Stimon, Ph.D., provided warm support and advice at many intervals during this process. Mark Epstein, J.D., Eve Epstein, J.D., and the other members of my second family, Charna, David, and Daniel Epstein, were regularly treated to all my ups and downs and remained remarkably sympathetic throughout. At Greenwood, thanks to Nita Romer, Editor, and Karen D. Treat, Production Supervisor.
I belong to several creative communities. Much of my thinking was confirmed by the women attending the fourth Chicago Professional Women's Conference, "A Weekend's Worth of Creativity," organized by Nancy Newton and myself. The students in "Separation, Loss and Mourning," a course I have taught for years at the Chicago School of Professional Psychology, have always provided inspiration by their interest. The Sunday Writing Group, with Margit, Nancy, and Kathleen, remains a high point of every month.
Finally, I turned the manuscript over to Nancy Newton, Ph.D., who, having already discussed these ideas with me for years, was also pressed into service to edit my words, check my thinking, and smooth out my uneven writing voice, all of which she did with her usual grace. She even read the notes. My most personal sources for confidence and courage remain Jennifer and Keira, my daughters. Thank you. I am blessed to have all these people in my life.
My deep appreciation goes to all the women who allowed me to enter and record a period of their lives. Women I interviewed and all the women I have worked with in therapy made themselves vulnerable in order to continue to go forward. It is always an honor to be invited into someone's life. I am endlessly heartened and amazed at the honesty of women who willingly open their lives because of concern and connection with other women they will never meet.