In This Corner—
YOU ARE GETTING a divorce because you and your spouse no longer live in the same world. Not politically. Sexually. Or nutritionally. Or you've discovered what a bitch she really is. Or what a louse he is. Or he's unfaithful. Or she's a rotten housekeeper. Or.... Whatever the reasons you have for wanting a divorce, your children are not going to like it. They may even hate it. How long and how virulently they continue to oppose your divorce—it could last years after you remarry— depends in some measure on how you conduct the pre-divorce months. Hopefully, for everyone's sake, it's months not years that we're talking about.
Since you are getting a divorce to find a better life, you do not expose the seamy side of your marital feud to your children. You do not turn dinner time, or watching TV, or shopping outings into a war game with your children as unofficial observers. You do not groom them to be spies, to tattle on your