Gothic Tales of Our Times
PREPARING for this book I read quite a few other books on the subject of the family. Some I applauded, some I disagreed with, some struck me as nonsense. I also talked to a great number of poly- and bio-parents in synergistic families with whom I more often than not deeply sympathized. Out of the interviews came personal stories that I believe could prove useful and fair warning to you. Usually, we learn best by our own perspiring experiences. But lacking firsthand, you-are-there participation, other people's experiences will do.
To give you this close-up "experience" of what happens in a family when there is no recognition that incestuous impulses— real or displaced—are prowling, I would like to share with you a few of the "gothic tales" I was told. On behalf of the tellers, I've changed names and locales and sometimes professions. But that's interior decoration. What remains untrifled with is the architecture of the house that Oedipus, Electra, and Phaedra built. Once inside, you can step into the minds of the people living the events and, gazing through their eyes, allow their perspectives to become your own. When the tale is ended, perhaps by "experiencing" their passions gone awry, you will be persuaded not to make the same mistake yourself. For, as our first kiss, job, or marriage should have advised us, experience is still the best teacher.