In the previous chapters, we hope that we have shown you ways of tackling successfully a range of difficulties that will help you to achieve greater personal effectiveness. Definitions of personal effectiveness are, of course, highly subjective, e.g. one person may see being assertive in certain situations as her desired outcome while another wants to develop a time management strategy that maximizes every minute of his waking life. Obviously you will need to determine specific criteria which will tell you if you are indeed achieving your goals, e.g. engaging in boring or burdensome tasks instead of avoiding them, handling criticism without being defensive or aggressive, removing time-wasting activities from your daily work schedule, and developing persistence instead of giving up at the first obstacle.
Your view of personal effectiveness will probably change over time as you develop greater competence and confidence in managing difficulties and responding to challenges, e.g. risk-taking is now seen by you as an indispensable and exciting part of personal growth, whereas before you viewed it apprehensively as containing more dangers than benefits. In this chapter, we focus on what we consider to be the building blocks of increased personal effectiveness.
We have discussed this concept repeatedly in this book because we think it is vitally important in developing and maintaining emotional stability in your life. Internalizing a philosophy of self-acceptance helps you to avoid putting yourself down and keeps your focus on