daughter vehemently objecting. And what of the rights of a "significant other" in the decision-making process, whether of the same or opposite sex as the patient? The rabbi also has to decide her or his halakhic-ethical norm: whether to look for a consensus among halakhic opinions, to choose one mentor and remain consistent, or to judge each case on its own merit and involve several opposing opinions so that there will be room to maneuver as the case develops. Much more is at stake here than halakhic or medical opinion. Painful emotions, such as love, guilt, and ones arising from intrafamily conflict, have to be dealt with sympathetically. Ideally, the physician and the rabbi should play the role of counselors, who listen and guide but never pontificate. In this way they may help the family grope toward the appropriate solution for their specific set of circumstances.