Perhaps inevitably, a book of this kind can only begin to open up such a huge topic. Even given the opportunity to revise the first edition, I am aware that gaps remain. Some matters have not been dealt with, and others have only been touched on briefly.
Just as there are gaps in what I have written, gaps exist in services too. Survivors may read this book but where will they go for help? If they are lucky, they will find someone to whom they can tell their story, someone who can listen and help them begin to make sense of a death which at first may seem senseless.
Suicide is a complex problem and there is rarely a single reason or a single path which leads someone to take their own life. For the survivors there is also no single route to recovery. Each person's grief will be unique and each will find their own ways of surviving the loss and moving on with their life.
This book is about one of the most painful losses a person may face, but I have endeavoured to show that it is an experience from which survivors can emerge not only changed, but stronger. The bereaved person can find new strengths and capacities, something positive can emerge, giving mean-ing to what is often seen as a meaningless death. The survivor may be more aware of the need to make something of their life which can be set against the 'wasted life' of the person who died. As Lily Pincus reminds us: 'There is no growth without pain and conflict; there is no loss which cannot lead to gain' (1974:278).