There are undeniably visible differences between women and men's expectations, attitudes and behaviour in relation to work organisations, and these distinctions solidify as individuals rise up the hierarchy. Men either push for career success and achieve seniority or they come to terms with having underachieved or deviated from social expectations. Women's experience is more complex. Socialisation into femininity is not as clear cut as masculinity and women do not have expectations of certain success (see Chapter 4). Thus women who find the going too tough may resign from the organisation, or at least drop out of the fast track, do so with fewer regrets than might men (see Marshall, 1994). Women who do succeed in management or the professions are more likely to increase the problems and stress in their lives than if they opt out (Davidson and Cooper, 1983), and the more senior a woman becomes she is more likely to be stressed at work than a man of equivalent seniority (Cushway, 1991). There are good social reasons why women find the high flying life difficult, particularly if they are mothers (see e.g. Cooper and Lewis, 1993). However, there are additional difficulties for senior women, particularly in relation to the management of psychological boundaries between self, social context and their sense of gendered subjectivity (see Chapter 2). To be doing 'male' things in patriarchal organisations and wanting to achieve in this arena does not preclude the desire to be feminine or to enjoy being a woman and being seen as a woman with a sexual, intellectual and emotional presence that is feminine.
It is important to reiterate that while not subscribing to an essentialist perspective on gender differences and gendered behaviours, it is clear that women and men give different meanings to their bodies and experience differential socialisation in such a way that it becomes difficult to