Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
One of the most interesting issues I have noticed over my years as a therapist has been how much forgiveness, or difficulty with it, comes into my practice. I discovered, when I compared my experience with my peers, that this was unusual. Most people with whom I work do not have a committed Christian faith. They hold what I would see as Christian morals, beliefs and attitudes, such as kindness to people, not judging, being honest and treating others with respect. It is, generally, not their biblical faith that brings them to the theme of forgiveness, but their need to be at one with themselves and not feel judged by themselves or others.
In this chapter, I discuss my value base and the influences this has on my practice in general and, specifically, in relation to forgiveness. I then explore the work I do with Christian and non-Christian clients on the subject of forgiveness. Finally, I will offer a model that may be useful for therapists working in this field. In the case examples I give, names and details have been changed to preserve confidentiality. The biblical references I make in this chapter all come from the New International Version of the Bible.
I believe we are made in God's image and therefore we can become more in tune with God's concept for us. We can change our lives, if