When Black Children Are Cute,
the World Is Watching
Discipline and Elementary School-Age Children
Instruction in youth is like engraving in stone.
For us, Stickin' To for four- to eleven-year-olds involves managing and negotiating how to emotionally support children in a way that fits their developmental needs. It's about how we get permission from our children to show them love and affection in a racially hostile world. Watchin' Over involves supervising our children's exposure to the world's insensitivity and attending to the events they are involved in. Gettin' With involves teaching them to respect structure and limits and how to reflect on the meaning of those limits without losing their voice in the process.
TO HUG YOUR CHILD WHEN
NO ONE ELSE WILL
So I walked my six-year-old to his school. We hold hands as we go. The closer we got to the school, I noticed he wanted to fix his coat and let go of my hand in the process. We came to the school's front door. As I usually do, I bent over, ready to kiss and hug him, and before I knew it, he turned his cheek. And then he said, “Daaaad,” in a low whisper so that no one