ON FRIDAY, DAVE got together with three of his college classmates who live not far from downtown. They went to a bar and watched some basketball games, but mostly they talked about what they were doing. The following day, a rare spring day with the temperature in the 50s, Dave picked up Maria and went to a popular exhibit at the impressive Cultural Institute, after which they walked around in the downtown area.
Sitting on a bench, looking across at the skyline formed by the buildings along Michigan Avenue, Dave was telling Maria about the little gathering he had last night with former classmates. Dave said it was good hearing what people were doing. “They all have interesting jobs, except George, who has a very well paying but boring job. Unfortunately,” Dave said, “I probably was a little too curious to hear what Jeremy was up to. Jeremy is super-smart, got very good grades in college, and now works for a large fi nancial firm. Although we always enjoyed being with Jeremy, he did not spend a lot of time with us. In college he had his gay friends. That was fine by us, but we made sure to invite Jeremy to most of the events we went to, in case he wanted to join our larger group. But he usually politely said he was going out with other friends.”
“At the bar, I was curious, but not inquisitive. Even though I wanted to know whether Jeremy was in a relationship, I said nothing and did not ask any questions that went in that direction. Still, as the conversation meandered through our different friends and hangouts, Jeremy said he was very happy because he and his