Whining and Dining
Tipping the Scales with
Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that aware-
ness, you have good manners, no matter what fork you use.—Emily Post (American
IT MAY NOT HAPPEN on the first round or even the second, but at some point during a lengthy interview process, you will be invited to dine out. This often happens when you’re seeing multiple decision makers in one day or when the 9–5 hours are too precious or impractical to spend on interviewing. When this happens, I let out a huge gasp, because it is precisely the point when many leading candidates go down. Couple a relaxing restaurant setting with a cocktail or two and all of a sudden you are an open book, resulting in the dreaded TMI (too much information). There are all sorts of inappropriate conversation choices, and they all seem to be a topic of discussion during a dining interview. Out of the blue, you are on the subject of your divorce and how you are every bit to blame for it. There’s alimony talk, then you reminisce about the old days, and finally the tears start rolling down your face.