Once there were two women, who never knew each other.
One you do not remember, the other you call Mother.
Life is about connections: connections between people, between people and their community, between communities and the world. We believe that humans are designed to be in relationship with others. We also believe that early life interactions are especially critical, because they form the foundation for an internal model of the self and of relationships with other people. Whether positive or negative, that model guides and directs behavior. The importance of a healthy attachment or connection between an infant and caregiver cannot be overstated. It is the basis for the model and for the child’s future relationships and behavior in society. Secure attachment happens when the parents and children spend time together. It is a process. Kids need both quantity and quality time. Sensitive, attuned care facilitates a healthy sense of self and a healthy internal model of what relationships can be. A secure attachment is vital to the growth of the children.
When first relationships do not provide the kind of emotional and physical care that is required for healthy growth and development, the individual may face multiple challenges throughout his life span. Fortunately, recognition of the importance of early attachment relationships is gaining increased acceptance, and strategies are being developed to ameliorate the effects of less than optimal early life interactions. Still, there are far too many children that suffer maltreatment and inadequate parental care when young. This sad fact is evidenced by the increasing case loads of social workers in social service departments around the world. Change must occur in families and in our society as a whole to prevent the disaster of wounded children. We need to fully support the parents and families that welcome these children into their homes. This support needs to be in terms of adequate financial, educational, and