YourLIFE: Ex Wants Kids at Wedding; LOVE CLINIC
Byline: Flic Everett
I RECENTLY divorced my husband after he had an affair with another woman.
They're now getting married and he sees our sons (aged three and five) every weekend. He wants them to go to the wedding but I don't want her to have anything to do with my children. He says I'm being unreasonable! What can I do?
FLIC SAYS: Nothing if you mean 'what can I do to keep my children mine and never let them meet the woman who hurt me.'
This painfully common situation requires plenty of maturity, farsightedness and unconditional love for your children. Don't make them feel they must take sides.
Instead, they need to know it's ok to have a nice time at daddy's, and it's ok not to hate the woman who will be their stepmother. I sympathise deeply but banning them from the wedding will only lead to years of guilt, confusion and resentment from your sons. …