Dr Miriam: Son's Spooked by Dad at War; LETTER OF THE DAY
Byline: Dr Miriam Stoppard
Dear Miriam MY seven-year-old son was always a gentle boy but not any more, according to his teacher.
She called me in to say he creates a lot of trouble in class and in the playground.
He hits other children for no reason and refuses to cooperate when she gives him work, spending his time instead doodling or looking out of the window.
The latest bad incident happened when he threw his lunch at another boy who took the seat he wanted in the school canteen.
I don't understand what's got into him. At home he's still well behaved but quieter than usual.
His father is in the army serving in Iraq and I wonder if this could have anything to do with the change in him. I do my best as a mum on her own but maybe it's not good enough. Please help me to help my son.
CHILDREN often express anger towards other children when they feel upset over something they can't control. You mustn't feel guilty about your son's behaviour.
Every family with a loved one serving on the front line must worry about their safety. It's natural to fear the worst and hope for the best. Children feel just as overloaded with anxiety as adults, so he's not immune to the dangerous job your husband is doing. …