Church Should Do More to Support Marriage

By de Santis, Solange | Anglican Journal, September 2005 | Go to article overview

Church Should Do More to Support Marriage


de Santis, Solange, Anglican Journal


IN THE CURRENT debate over extending marriage to gay couples, you will hear some Anglican clergy say that the church should get out of the "marriage business" altogether. "We should give up our roles as agents of the state. Let everyone have a civil marriage and those who want it can come get blessed in church," the thinking goes.

While weddings do bring in some revenue for churches--and their quirky excesses can cause migraines among clergy--it seems remarkably cynical to regard marriage as a "business." Linking marriage partners to the Christian faith can certainly be accomplished in a blessing ceremony, but going through the actual legal process at the same time as the church service lends an extra weight to the occasion.

Weddings are also one of those times, like baptisms and funerals, when "strangers" come to church. The betrothed couple may not have been to a Sunday service in years, but when it comes time to marry, they look for a church. It may or may not be the denomination of their childhood, but the church they choose should celebrate and welcome them, not inform them they need to go to city hall first.

A wedding may be the first time a couple and their guests have set foot in an Anglican church. Author and analyst Reginald Bibby, in his book Restless Churches, notes that churches faced with shrinking membership paradoxically often fail to seize the opportunity when new people come for life-passage ceremonies such as baptisms, weddings and funerals.

A couple on the verge of a new life chapter, possibly thinking of having children, ready to engage with the deeper values of existence - what fertile possibilities for church membership. But churches should not just see couples as potential new members. In preparing for marriage, the couple may have taken a marriage preparation course in or out of the church, or sat down with the rector for a talk. But once they take those vows and swirl out of the sanctuary in a haze of tulle, corsages and smiles, how does the church support them?

While we're taking a look at whether marriage should be gay or straight, let's take a look at marriage. The vows are timeless, although women usually don't promise to "obey." To love, to honour, to protect, "till death do us part"--this is serious business. There aren't many times that we stand up in public and promise to commit to something for the rest of our lives. …

The rest of this article is only available to active members of Questia

Already a member? Log in now.

Notes for this article

Add a new note
If you are trying to select text to create highlights or citations, remember that you must now click or tap on the first word, and then click or tap on the last word.
One moment ...
Default project is now your active project.
Project items
Notes
Cite this article

Cited article

Style
Citations are available only to our active members.
Buy instant access to cite pages or passages in MLA 8, MLA 7, APA and Chicago citation styles.

(Einhorn, 1992, p. 25)

(Einhorn 25)

(Einhorn 25)

1. Lois J. Einhorn, Abraham Lincoln, the Orator: Penetrating the Lincoln Legend (Westport, CT: Greenwood Press, 1992), 25, http://www.questia.com/read/27419298.

Note: primary sources have slightly different requirements for citation. Please see these guidelines for more information.

Cited article

Church Should Do More to Support Marriage
Settings

Settings

Typeface
Text size Smaller Larger Reset View mode
Search within

Search within this article

Look up

Look up a word

  • Dictionary
  • Thesaurus
Please submit a word or phrase above.
Print this page

Print this page

Why can't I print more than one page at a time?

Help
Full screen
Items saved from this article
  • Highlights & Notes
  • Citations
Some of your highlights are legacy items.

Highlights saved before July 30, 2012 will not be displayed on their respective source pages.

You can easily re-create the highlights by opening the book page or article, selecting the text, and clicking “Highlight.”

matching results for page

    Questia reader help

    How to highlight and cite specific passages

    1. Click or tap the first word you want to select.
    2. Click or tap the last word you want to select, and you’ll see everything in between get selected.
    3. You’ll then get a menu of options like creating a highlight or a citation from that passage of text.

    OK, got it!

    Cited passage

    Style
    Citations are available only to our active members.
    Buy instant access to cite pages or passages in MLA 8, MLA 7, APA and Chicago citation styles.

    "Portraying himself as an honest, ordinary person helped Lincoln identify with his audiences." (Einhorn, 1992, p. 25).

    "Portraying himself as an honest, ordinary person helped Lincoln identify with his audiences." (Einhorn 25)

    "Portraying himself as an honest, ordinary person helped Lincoln identify with his audiences." (Einhorn 25)

    "Portraying himself as an honest, ordinary person helped Lincoln identify with his audiences."1

    1. Lois J. Einhorn, Abraham Lincoln, the Orator: Penetrating the Lincoln Legend (Westport, CT: Greenwood Press, 1992), 25, http://www.questia.com/read/27419298.

    Cited passage

    Thanks for trying Questia!

    Please continue trying out our research tools, but please note, full functionality is available only to our active members.

    Your work will be lost once you leave this Web page.

    Buy instant access to save your work.

    Already a member? Log in now.

    Search by... Author
    Show... All Results Primary Sources Peer-reviewed

    Oops!

    An unknown error has occurred. Please click the button below to reload the page. If the problem persists, please try again in a little while.