What We Know about the Sex Addict: Interactions of Multiple Addictions Are Common in This Population
Carnes, Patrick J., Addiction Professional
For therapists, diagnosing sexual addiction and/or compulsivity in a patient can be a daunting task. The key lies in vigilance in taking the patient's history. Most often the emerging details will reveal the presenting behaviors' underlying causes. A therapist cannot be afraid to ask probing questions about not only the current sexual behavior but also all the behaviors surrounding it.
In the period from 1985 to 2003, a comprehensive longitudinal study was performed, which gives us a profile of sex addicts. (1) A total of 650 patients attended an addiction interaction workshop, which was designed to understand the patterns in the interaction of their compulsive behaviors. In order to conduct an appropriate assessment of these patients, professional helpers needed to be aware of how sex addicts come to be sex addicts, as well as of the objective criteria by which to evaluate them. Here, then, is how the data break down.
The role of the family
In studying these recovering patients and their partners, it was determined that sex addicts tended to come from families where there were addicts of all kinds. For example, mothers (25%), fathers (38%), and siblings (46%) of these individuals had significant alcohol problems. Mothers (18%), fathers (38%), and siblings (50%) had similar problems with sexual acting out. Parallel patterns existed with eating disorders, pathological gambling, and compulsive work. Only 13% of sex addicts reported coming from families with no addictions. So we know that growing up in a family with existing addictions is a factor.
Family type also was a factor. Sex addicts in the study experienced their families as rigid (77%) and dogmatic. They also found their families to be disengaged (87%): in other words, detached, uninvolved, and emotionally absent. Thus, they came from environments in which failure to bond was the norm.
Another major area of impact was the role of child abuse. Addicts reported physical abuse (72%), sexual abuse (81%), and emotional abuse (97%). Furthermore, the more sexually and physically abused the respondents were as children, the more addictions they had as adults. Emotional abuse was a significant factor in addicts who abused children themselves.
Sex addiction criteria
In keeping with the guidelines used to assess pathological gambling, alcoholism, and substance abuse, the following criteria for diagnosing sex addiction have been established:
1. Recurrent failure to resist sexual impulses to engage in specific sexual behavior.
2. Frequently engaging in those behaviors to a greater extent, or over a longer period of time, than intended.
3. Persistent desire or unsuccessful efforts to stop, reduce, or control those behaviors.
4. Inordinate amounts of time spent in obtaining sex, being sexual, or recovering from sexual experiences.
5. Preoccupation with sexual behavior or preparatory activities.
6. Frequent engaging in the behavior when expected to fulfill occupational, academic, domestic, or social obligations.
7. Continuation of the behavior despite knowledge of having a persistent or recurrent social, financial, psychological, or physical problem that is caused or exacerbated by the behavior.
8. Need to increase the intensity, frequency, number, or risk level of behaviors to achieve the desired effect, or diminished effect with continued behaviors at the same level of intensity, frequency, number, or risk.
9. Giving up or limiting social, occupational, or recreational activities because of the behavior.
10. Distress, anxiety, restlessness, or irritability if unable to engage in the behavior.
In a research study that David Wines conducted on recovering sex addicts, 85% of his subjects met at least five of the criteria and 52% met seven or more. (2) In the American Psychiatric Association's Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, only three criteria must be met in order to qualify for compulsive gambling or substance abuse. …