Do I Give off Signals That Attract Bad Men?

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Do I Give off Signals That Attract Bad Men?


Byline: Bel Mooney

Dear Bel RECENTLY a friend said I should be a therapist because I'm so understanding. Why then, I thought, has my own marriage and a handful of other relationships I've had gone wrong? I begin to see a pattern. The men were needy or damaged, and I loved them into feeling good about themselves.

They ALL then developed huge egos, and started to see me as not good enough. I went from being their salvation and earth mother to being someone to denigrate and treat without respect. Then I would finish it, because without mutual respect and trust, a love affair is not love any more.

In my mid-60s, having raised a family alone, I kept (until now) the hope that I might find lasting love. But realising that it's some fault in me that has caused my previous relationships to fail, I am wondering if it's worth the risk of trying again.

Do you think I give off signals that attract the wrong sort of men who need a temporary crutch? I am lucky enough to be positive and resilient, with lots of interests and friends. But now I'm all at sea. I'd thought I was unlucky in love but perhaps I brought the unhappiness on myself. I don't want to have my heart broken again. Should I give up my secret dream, which has kept me going through some very sad and difficult times, that one day I'd be married to a man I could love and who'd love and respect me back? Is it more realistic to just give up on that dream and get on with my life, resigned to always being alone? Please give me an honest answer.

CAROLINE

THERE is no better way for me to begin than to cheer you with four lines from the black American poet Langston Hughes (1902-1967). …

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