Healthy Sexual Expression Is Essential to Marriage
America is one of the most sexually charged cultures in the world.
Americans are among the most sexually ignorant people in the world.
Sexual problems are among the most prevalent -- and threatening --to American marriages.
These observations are reported time and again in journals and texts that deal with human sexuality. I don't know whether we'll ever be able to fully understand the relationshipbetween these observations, but I strongly believe there is one.
We find sex everywhere -- television, movies, books, magazines, fashion, advertising. Yet, sex is used in these arenas primarily to entice us to tune in, attend, listen, read, approach and especially to get us to spend money.
When it comes to knowledge about sexuality and its positive expression in human relationships, however, we are hardly so well-supplied.Sex "education" often is barely that.When we talk about sex with our families or at schools, we tend to discuss what not to do or speak in vague generalities about sex as some mysterious element reserved for marriage.
Of course, most of us do learn about sex.We talk about it incessantly in our peer groups (where the rule is always to pretend we know more than we really do), and pick up what we can from magazines, movies, television and elsewhere. Usually, what we do learn is both inaccurate and overly simplified.
It's no wonder, then, when men and women do express their sexuality in long-term, intimate relationships such as marriage that confusion, misunderstanding and problems often arise.And, when not dealt with positively, these problems can severely threaten the health of any relationship.
Though there is an awful lot about human sexuality that we don't comprehend, there are some things that we can do to help us express it more positively.
* We can add to our knowledge.Researchers have learned a good deal about male and female sexuality in recent decades.Most of this knowledge is now readily available in any number of good books on the subject.We may be surprised what we'll find out.
* We can develop self-awareness. Each of us is unique.If we are to enjoy our sexuality to the fullest, we must learn how we as individuals experience it. …