Families in Psychiatry: Reconceptualizing Family
Heru, Alison M., Clinical Psychiatry News
Bob is in the kitchen, settling down his family to preparing a celebration dinner with produce from the communal garden. He is a tall, wiry man with a gray beard and kind gentle eyes. His current family includes his wife, who is a therapist in a nearby town; a tall, blonde Scandinavian man who is spending time "finding himself"; a young, eager couple who tend the garden and teach the intricacies of organic farming; and a reclusive artist who works with metals and found objects.
Bob bought the dilapidated commune buildings several years ago, after retiring from his fast-paced, stressful life as an internist in California. He has meticulously restored the adobe buildings using the expertise of traditional builders. There are different types of adobe throughout the compound, sparkling mica walls in the bedrooms, and deep, rich brown in the large circular communal living room. Bob conceptualizes this historic setting as a retreat for meditation and a place to teach organic farming to the next generation. As I observed during my visit a few months ago, Bob is the elder and wise man of this communal family who gently quiets the demons in the spider-phobic Scandinavian.
This is a "family" in the best sense: a group of people who share a spiritual belief in their connection to the land, the goodness of the human spirit, and the importance of connection between people. Like the hippies before them who established New Buffalo in Arroyo Hondo, N.M., the residents reject many Western values, at least for a few years, and try out this alternative way of living. The community's website says it is no longer a commune but that members are "connected by a common sense of ideals and a I strong sense of place."
Communes have always existed in the United States. Native Americans live communally but are not recognized as living in communes. The largest recognized U.S. communal living group is the Hutterite community. About 42,000 people live in rural Hutterite communities across the United States. They are derived from the Anabaptists, a Christian sect dating back to 16th century Austria, which also spawned Amish and Mennonite communities.
Whatever type of family our patients live in, be it a religious sect, a down-to-earth commune, or a traditional family, to run well, that family needs to be organized, to communicate well and to have good boundaries (Fam. …