He's My Rock but There's No Passion; Is There Anybody Who Can Recover the Experience of His Childhood.With an Intimate Penetration, a Revived Consciousness of What He Felt Then.? What He Felt When His Schoolfellows Shut Him out of Their Game.? Surely If We Could Recall That Early Bitterness.We Should Not Pooh-Pooh the Griefs of Our Children.' INSPIRE BEL MOONEY FROM THE MILL ON THE FLOSS BY GEORGE ELIOT (1819-1880)

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He's My Rock but There's No Passion; Is There Anybody Who Can Recover the Experience of His Childhood.With an Intimate Penetration, a Revived Consciousness of What He Felt Then.? What He Felt When His Schoolfellows Shut Him out of Their Game.? Surely If We Could Recall That Early Bitterness.We Should Not Pooh-Pooh the Griefs of Our Children.' INSPIRE BEL MOONEY FROM THE MILL ON THE FLOSS BY GEORGE ELIOT (1819-1880)


Byline: BEL MOONEY

DEAR BEL, I HAVE a business with a man I had a sexual relationship with for a few years. Several years ago our business floundered and I developed a serious illness. As a result our affair dwindled to nothing, but we remained friends. The business revived, all is well and we're now both in our 50s.

He is keen to rekindle our relationship. He wants us to be a 'proper couple' and possibly live together. I love him and he loves me and we spend a lot of our spare time together, but there is something inside me that recoils from formalising this.

I still have no desire for sex, so worry that the lack of passion would spoil what we have. Also I love spending time alone in my lovely house and could resent the intrusion into my time and space. Yet I know that if he were to meet someone else I'd be devastated.

He is my best friend, confidant and my rock. I am happy with the way things are and have not looked elsewhere but he is clearly not and needs a change in his life. Is it better to settle for a steady love and put up with sex, or hope for passion, longing gazes and thrills? ANDREA YOUR last question could be the theme of a best-seller by Joanna Trollope or Jodi Picoult, both who write about the dilemmas of the human heart. In fact, this very question is also at the root of some of the great classics of world literature (Anna Karenina, for example) because the deep desire for thrilling passion so often trumps common sense, leading to untold misery. Many a marriage is destroyed because of a yen for sexual excitement.

Are you holding out in the hope that something better comes along? Or are you holding back from being with the man you really love, because you can't bear the thought of him touching you? …

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