A Writer Takes a Look at How Artists Balance Motherhood and Muse
Marilyn Gardner, writer of The Christian Science Monitor, The Christian Science Monitor
Judith Pierce Rosenberg learned the hard way that Virginia Woolf was right about that room of one's own.
When Ms. Rosenberg, a writer, moved with her husband and children to a three-bedroom ranch house in southern California in the mid-1980s, she gave up her home office so her young son and daughter could have separate rooms.
She moved her filing cabinet into her daughter's room and stored office supplies in a bedroom closet. She arranged her books in the living room and placed her computer on a kitchen table.
Her muse was not amused. The makeshift arrangement proved so unworkable that it closed a chapter in Rosenberg's writing career. Not until three years later, when the family moved into a bigger home, did she regain an office and begin writing again.
"I was so naive that I didn't realize how important it was to have my own desk," Rosenberg says. "I just assumed I could be a kitchen-table writer. Most people can't."
That "career crisis," as Rosenberg calls it, piqued her curiosity: How, she wondered, do other women carve out space and time for creativity while the three C's of domesticity - childrearing, cooking, cleaning - swirl about them?
Interviews with artists
To answer that question, she interviewed 25 women with established literary and artistic careers.
The result is "A Question of Balance: Artists and Writers on Motherhood" (Papier-Mache Press, 276 pp., $14), which "chronicles the struggles and celebrates the achievements" of women who combine families with careers in the arts.
"There's kind of a common assumption people have before they have children that you sort of rock the cradle with your foot while you're typing," Rosenberg says. "But children are not that compliant."
Instead, she found "real differences" between women who managed to keep working in their field after they had children and those who stopped, at least temporarily. "It had to do with different conditions of space, time, and child care," she explains.
Whatever their differences, her subjects share common challenges.
Most need to be alone when they work. "I find it hard to work if there are other people in the house," confesses travel writer Mary Morris.
Adds novelist Mary Gordon, speaking of her two children, "I can write anywhere, but I can't write with them around."
Then there is the pervasive issue of guilt, a thread running through many interviews. As photographer Bea Nettles says, "I think a father could go in and lock the door and not be considered a bad person. I think a mother doing that is still probably considered neglectful somehow. It's going to take a long time for these changes to occur."
Find balance before, after
Some women also admit difficulty in trying to work after the birth of a baby. …