Worldwide Candle Lighting Creates a Wave of Grief Healing

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Worldwide Candle Lighting Creates a Wave of Grief Healing

Actress Julie Harris87

Actress Cathy Lee Crosby68

Movie director Penelope Spheeris67

Actor Ron Raines63

Actor Keith Szarabajka60

Actor Dan Butler58

Broadcast journalist Stone Phillips58

Actor Dennis Christopher57

Actor Steven Bauer56

Actress Rena Sofer44

Actress Lucy Liu44

Singer Nelly Furtado34

Pop singer Britney Spears31,by JERALDINE SAUNDERS

ARIES (March 21-April 19): An independent spirit but a willingness to compromise leads to success.

TAURUS (April 20-May 20): People will be pleased by your open and fair manner. What is good for one person should benefit everyone involved.

GEMINI (May 21-June 20): You might feel like clowning around or might be forced to deal with apologies. Someone could misunderstand a message.

CANCER (June 21-July 22): Your favorite sidekicks could paint a pretty picture of what might be, but you are wise to reserve a final opinion.

LEO (July 23-Aug. 22): A gamble on positive end results could turn out for the best, but only if you are practical.

VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Have faith that you can handle circumstances that threaten your security. Tap into universal wisdom, and it will help you.

LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22): You might be gung-ho for all the wrong reasons -- but with all the right results.

SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21): The foresight to create things that improve your future while in the midst of change leads to success.

SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): Do a favor for a new friend. You might not be repaid exactly the way you imagine, but something good will emerge.

CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Small interruptions might sidetrack you, but it is easy to get back on target.You visualize your financial future before you act.

AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): There is a kernel of goodness in any event, no matter how worrisome, that you can put to your advantage.

PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20): You can tackle just about anything this week. Don't forget that a lack of organization may scatter energies too widely.

IF DEC. 2 IS YOUR BIRTHDAY: Your views and outlook on life might undergo an important change in the year ahead. What you once treasured might assume less significance as you search for greener pastures and break free of restraints. Right now, you are in a planning stage, brimming with ideas and help from reliable sources. Plan ahead and launch the most important projects during April or May -- especially those that depend upon public approval. Your personal appeal will be at its height and potential employers or romantic hookups will look favorably upon you. Your prospects for a committed relationship will improve greatly in August and September, although you might wish to maintain some degree of independence.

Jeraldine Saunders writes for Tribune Media Services.,Associated Press

Today is Sunday, Dec. 2, the 337th day of 2012. There are 29 days left in the year.

Highlight in history

In 1804: Napoleon crowned himself Emperor of the French.

In 1812: The Electoral College chose President James Madison to serve a second term of office.

In 1823: President James Monroe outlined his doctrine opposing European expansion in the Western Hemisphere.

In 1859: Militant abolitionist John Brown was hanged for his raid on Harpers Ferry the previous October. Artist Georges-Pierre Seurat was born in Paris.

In 1927: Ford Motor Co. unveiled its Model A automobile that replaced its Model T.

In 1939: New York Municipal Airport-LaGuardia Field (later LaGuardia Airport) went into operation as an airliner from Chicago landed at one minute past midnight.

In 1942: An artificially created, self-sustaining nuclear chain reaction was demonstrated for the first time at the University of Chicago.

In 1954: The Senate voted to condemn Sen. Joseph R. McCarthy, R- Wis., for conduct that "tends to bring the Senate into disrepute."

In 1961: Cuban leader Fidel Castro declared himself a Marxist- Leninist who would eventually lead Cuba to Communism.

In 1970: The newly created Environmental Protection Agency opened its doors. (Its first director was William D. Ruckelshaus.)

In 1982: In the first operation of its kind, doctors at the University of Utah Medical Center implanted a permanent artificial heart in the chest of retired dentist Dr. Barney Clark, who lived 112 days with the device.

In 1991: American hostage Joseph Cicippio held captive in Lebanon for more than five years, was released.

In 2001: In one of the largest corporate bankruptcies in U.S. history, Enron filed for Chapter 11 protection.

Ten years ago: A statement attributed to al-Qaida claimed responsibility for the car-bombing of an Israeli-owned hotel in Kenya and the attempted shoot-down of an Israeli airliner, both on Nov. 28.

Five years ago: Venezuela President Hugo Chavez suffered defeat as voters rejected sweeping constitutional reforms by 51 to 49 percent. Russian President Vladimir Putin's party swept 70 percent of the seats for a new parliament in a vote whose fairness was called into question by European election monitors.

One year ago: The Labor Department announced the unemployment rate had fallen to 8.6 percent in Nov. 2011, the lowest since March 2009.,by KATHY MITCHELL and MARCY SUGAR

Dear Annie: When a child dies in your family, the world changes. Life goes on, but priorities change, and remembering the child who has died is an important way of traveling through your grief journey. The holiday season is especially difficult, as traditions often give way to new, more meaningful acts that help to remember the child, sibling or grandchild who has died.

That is why The Compassionate Friends created the Worldwide Candle Lighting. The Compassionate Friends is a national self-help bereavement organization for families going through the grieving process after the death of a child. The Worldwide Candle Lighting is held at 7 p.m. local time on the second Sunday in December. Dec. 9 is the 16th worldwide event.

By lighting at 7 p.m. local time, candles first shine an hour west of the International Date Line and an hour later in subsequent time zones, creating a virtual 24-hour wave of light in remembrance of children who have died, no matter their age or country of origin.

Hundreds of services open to the public will be held throughout the day. We will be joined by allied organizations at home and abroad, with services held by local bereavement groups, churches, funeral homes, hospitals, hospices, children's gardens, schools, cemeteries and community centers. Anyone unable to attend a service may light a candle in remembrance wherever they may be.

For more information, your readers may visit The Compassionate Friends at or call 877-969-0010 toll- free. We also invite your readers to post a memorial message in our online Remembrance Book. We do this "that their light may always shine!"

-- Patricia Loder, Executive Director, The Compassionate Friends/ USA

Dear Patricia Loder: Thank you for giving us the chance to again mention the Worldwide Candle Lighting. This is a wonderful opportunity for the bereaved to honor the memory of a child who has died and to be part of a community of others who are paying tribute to their loved ones. We hope our readers will look at your website and participate in this worthwhile event. (As an added precaution, please do not leave your lighted candle unattended.)

Dear Annie: I find myself in the sad and unfortunate position of having a daughter who has decided, out of anger, to prevent my husband and me from having contact with our 7-year-old granddaughter. This seems to be a common occurrence these days.

My friends and family tell us that we will eventually hear from our granddaughter when she is older and out on her own. I don't know if this is true. Have any of your readers been through this difficult situation and reconnected with their grandchildren after such a long separation?

-- Arizona Grandparents

Dear Arizona: We hope so, and undoubtedly, they will write to tell us if this has happened and offer words of encouragement. But in the meantime, check with an attorney to see whether your state recognizes grandparents' rights. Also, if there is anything you can do to repair the relationship with your daughter, please try. Estrangement is a high price to pay for disagreements that could possibly be resolved with apologies and tolerance. We also hope you will look into becoming foster grandparents.

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