Cohabitation before Marriage Irks Father

By Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency | Telegraph - Herald (Dubuque), January 19, 2014 | Go to article overview

Cohabitation before Marriage Irks Father


Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency, Telegraph - Herald (Dubuque)


Dear Amy: I am a 24-year-old woman and have been with my wonderful partner for the past seven years. He is also 24. We have lived together for several years. We are in a committed, loving relationship and see marriage in the future, but not as soon as my father would like.

I do not live in the same state as my parents but visit as often as possible. The last few trips, my very Catholic father has been pushing marriage or request we break up, which I think is ridiculous.

I have told him many times to not push it, because we are young and I feel as though we need to grow mentally and financially before marrying.

We are both trying to find grounding in our fields and only graduated from college a year ago.

My father is becoming overly aggressive with his request, and I am playing with the idea of telling him to stop minding my relationship or I will cut ties with him and not visit.

I am very close to both of my parents and do not want to go this route, but I fear my request will fall on deaf ears and he will continue to badger my partner and me.

How do I calm my pushy father down? - Tired

Dear Tired: Before resorting to the nuclear option ("Stop bugging me about this, or I'll cut you off completely"), you should give him fair warning about how much this bothers you by simply and calmly asking him, again, to stop. The next time this starts, put your hand on his arm and say, "Dad, please. You're not helping. I don't want to discuss this with you. Please stop." Follow up with a letter stating that you understand his position and that he doesn't need to restate it.

If his need for you to get married is a result of his religious convictions, then that likely supersedes your views. Prepare yourself for this to continue, and if it does, then staying away from home would seem like a natural consequence of his behavior and the discomfort it causes you. …

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