Hookup Culture Not a Gender Issue: Women Want It, Too
Marcotte, Amanda, Winnipeg Free Press
Book dispels myth females are 'victims'
NEW YORK -- Hanna Rosin's new book The End of Men: And the Rise of Women is coming out next month, and the Atlantic is previewing it in its September issue with Rosin's piece about the so-called hookup culture that has conservatives in a decade-long huff and much of the media in a sex panic.
The typical assumption about hookup culture is that it's something men imposed on women, exploiting modern contraceptives and sexual liberty to get away with having sex with women without having to commit or do anything icky, such as pretend to like them.
The narrative has always sat uneasily with me, as it's based on the presumption women are so foul men will only put up with them to get sex.
So, I was stoked to discover Rosin's research led her to conclude women aren't being victimized by delusions of feminism and the men taking advantage of them. On the contrary, Rosin believes women perpetuate the hook-up culture. Young women want romance in theory but find in practice, relationships are more trouble than they're worth.
The women described boyfriends as "too greedy" and relationships as "too involved." One woman "with no shortage of admirers" explained, "I know this sounds really pathetic and you probably think I am lying, but there are so many other things going on right now that it's really not something high up on my list. I know that's such a lame excuse, but it's true."
The women wanted to study or hang out with friends or just be "100 per cent selfish," as one said. "I have the rest of my life to devote to a husband or kids or my job."
Some even purposely had what one might think of as fake boyfriends, whom they considered sub-marriage quality and weren't genuinely attached to. …