can't praise alain de Botton's "12 Rude Revelations About Sex" enough (February). It's great to see sex discussed in such a frank mannerà la Erica Jong and Nancy Friday. Great work.
CLARISSA DAISY HUNTSMAN
your recent article "12 Rude Revelations About Sex" has at least one problematic falsehood. A publication that endeavors to promote mental health should not endorse the incorrect presumption that "the wet vagina and the stiff penis function as unambiguous agents of sincerity." In fact, many survivors of trauma are troubled by this very belief when they find themselves physiologically aroused in response to violence, fear, or other trauma cues. The truth is that the body can and does learn to produce these responses to varied stimuli, without regard to sincerity of attraction or desire.
EMILY PATTON, M.A.
CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGY TRAINEE AT CASE WESTERN RESERVE UNIVERSITY
INTERESTING COVER STORY, but I disagree that most of us have secret fantasies. When you are with a compatible and open partner, there is nothing you need or want to keep from them. Complete acceptance and comfort isn't impossible.
Down But Not Out
I was really touched by Grady Sedgwick's article "What It's Like...To Be Homeless" (December). I can certainly relate to his struggle with job loss, mental illness, and issues with family; as a schizophrenic, I've lost a lot, and life is tough. But I still have a place to live, and that's definitely something to be thankful for. It's easy to take any part of your life for granted. Thanks, Grady, for jarring me out of my latest bout of self-pity. You're a tough cookie with a positive attitude (despite the depression), and I wish you all the best
The Pain of Being a Man
i'm appalled that you decided to run the article "I Love Being a Guy" (February). …