also made when a young adult has been emancipated after long-term foster or group care and has developed a relationship that leads to adult adoption. Other times, foster families adopt an adult after state assistance with the young person's special needs is no longer available.
Anne's oldest child approached her and her husband and asked to be adopted, having lived with them for only seven months as a foster daughter at age 16. Their relationship had continued while her birth family relationships deteriorated. When asked why she would want to be adopted in adulthood, she replied, "Everyone needs a family and a place to call 'home'; you don't stop needing parents just because you grow up."
Throughout this book, we have strongly encouraged all prospective adopters to take an educated, active role in their own adoptions. We have showed how adopting and advocating for the special needs child are two halves of a whole. We related what the research shows, what our experience working with thousands of families for a combined three decades has taught us, and what our personal experiences with our own more than 30 adopted and foster children reveals. But we cannot tell anyone what his or her experience will be. No one can. Every child and every family has a unique story, a story written in human hearts.