We urge the reader to take note of the direct responses by the parents to the questions posed to them. They emphasized love and the desire for a child as the major reasons why anyone should want to adopt transracially. One family said, "It is the best thing that has happened to us." They warned that the families should be prepared for complications and problems -- but is any child rearing free of anxiety and difficulties? Just as in 1972, the parents warned: Do not adopt for political motives; do not do it as part of a crusade, or to wave a banner, or out of white liberal guilt. They also cautioned prospective adoptive parents that the race issue could prove more complicated than they anticipated, and urged learning as much as possible about the child's racial heritage. The major and strongest messages were: "Be sure you are committed to adoption." "Adopt if you love and want children." "Pray about it, keep your motives straight; adopt because you need and love a child."
In essence, these were the messages the parents sent in 1972, in 1979, and again in 1984, when, for many of them, their TRAs had graduated from childhood into young adulthood.