But I was from the all American family
Therefore I am from a dysfunctional family
Which means I was expected to meet their needs
But I had the all American job
Therefore I had to perform and produce
Regardless of what it cost me emotionally
But I was the all American macho man
Therefore I was expected to hide my pain and tender emotions
And only show my anger
This poem which I wrote may partially explain why a family science scholar is interested in mythopoetic men's healing work. For a partial answer to the question of why a family studies scholar has such an interest, it is necessary to provide a map of my social location. I am white, Protestant, Anglo-Saxon, divorced, and well into middle age.
I faced a number of midlife crises in the late 1980s including loss of much of the family farm, loss of profession, and loss of license. Then my wife's moving out propelled me to take a look at myself and my life. I called my minister and said I needed some help. He referred me to Bill Courter for therapy. Bill was just starting to become active in the mythopoetic branch of the contemporary men's movement, and I followed.
In the early 1990s there was a fair amount of publicity about the mythopoetic branch of the contemporary men's movement. It was portrayed in the popular media as mainly men going out into the woods for male bonding and men