How Women Actually Make Decisions: New Explanations
The discovery now being celebrated by men in mid-life of the importance of intimacy, relationships, and care is something that women have known from the beginning.
Carol Gilligan ( 1979)
But their [women's] psychology permits this degree of attenuation more easily than for a man who will often blindly follow a single course. A woman's success is less easily visible, by the same token, because it consists of the sum of all these activities rather than the result of a single-minded pursuit of one. When scholars point out that even the best cooks have been men, the proper answer is, "but what man has been not only the second-best cook, but the third-best parent, the seventh-best typist, the third most considerate child and the tenth- best community leader?" In other words, if there were awards in life for the all-around sum of successes--a kind of pentathlon--women would win them all. Instead, it is as if we keep noting that the men win the javelin throw, the 100-yard dash, etc., and give no accolades for the best all-around athletes.
David McClelland ( 1965)
Attachment with individuation is possible. . . . Such individuals are no longer isolate or exploiter, victim or martyr. They are individuated and choose to care.
Sally Archer and Alan Waterman ( 1988)