|How does mind operate apart from body?|
|16. PSEUDO-WORDS AND NON-REFERENCING WORDS.|
|Words with no true referents.||
Index the reference.|
What specifically do you have in ref-
|"That makes him a failure."||
What specifically do you mean by|
Does "failure" refer to anything that
actually exists? Does it not merely
function as an intensional definition?
Demanding Approval: "I must have love and approval from all the people I find significant." "Need," as implied here, constitutes a pseudo-word, a non-referencing word that creates a false-to-fact map about one's drives. "Must" indicates a modal operator of necessity and maps a false-to-fact need. This illogically "sets up a perfectionistic, unattainable goal" (p. 92). Solution: Question this statement, dispute it, substitute "want" for "must," focus on loving rather than getting love, refuse to confuse getting love and having personal worth.
Demanding Achievement: "I must prove thoroughly competent, adequate, and achieving; or, I must have competence and talent in some important area of life." The irrationality in this one shows up in the "notion that humans have value proportional to their accomplishments; that they might as well curl up and die" if they don't (p. 102). Solution: Challenge the "am" in the statement "I am a butcher, baker, candlestick maker" (p. 104). Eliminate the "to be" verbs of "am" and "are". Stop rating yourself according to your performance. "No horror exists if you never have coitus--merely disadvantage and inconvenience" (p. 107). Engage in anti-awfuliz-