In Israel the roles and relationships of mother, father, husband, wife, son, and daughter are deeply affected by the continuous strain of the tensions and dangers of our life here and by the sudden crisis of war when it breaks out. People have been talking a lot about this indirect consequence of the war. Because it would be impossible to survey all the different manifestations of our problems in this area, I will present just a few cases of individuals facing their family members, with the threat of war as a third side of the triangle.
One example concerns parents' relationships with their children. Parents worry about the safety of their children, who grow up in the shadow of war. Will my son have to fight for this country when he grows up? Will we manage to achieve a peaceful solution before his time to be mobilized comes? These questions obsess parents, even when their children are mere infants. Such an infant is Ud's boy, and the father's frantic attempt to save him is the focus of the dream that opens this section. Ud handed "One Man's War" to me in writing after a year of work in the group. This is a dream with a minimal amount of augmentation, in its raw state -- a parable in which we may find many meanings. Yet its message is rather straightforward: people are endangering the child's life, and the father (Ud) wanders back to his military training camp in the desert in search of a weapon with which to ward them off.
Significantly, this dream dates from 1971, a relatively peaceful period before the Yom Kippur War. Yet, in his search, Ud