depend on the nature of their relationship -- how intimate they are, how satisfied they are, and how open they are with one another about emotional issues.
In sum, the findings of this research suggest that the old adage concerning "sticks and stones" requires, at the very least, a lengthy addendum. Hurt is a socially elicited emotion ( de Rivera, 1977) -- people feel hurt because of the interpersonal behavior of others. Because feelings of hurt are elicited through social interaction, words can "hurt" -- both individuals and relationships.
The author would like to thank Bill Cupach, Steve Duck, Robert Hopper, Mark Knapp, and Brian Spitzberg for their contributions to this chapter.
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