Why are men so difficult when they have to confront personal issues? We do not hesitate to take charge of established businesses and start up new ones or help our children and neighbors cope with their own crises, but when we have a private problem, an intimate sexual one, we suddenly feel all alone and adrift without any sense of where to turn. This selfimposed isolation is no longer warranted. If you have a sexual problem, you should know that you are not alone. You are one of 30 million American men who can be helped to regain their sexual function and vitality.
Boys will be boys. So goes the wisdom of mothers.
Men will be men. Ask any man's wife or lover.
There are times, however, when an individual man cannot be quite the man he would like to be -- or once was.
If it is just his status at work, income, or physique that is below expectations, opportunities for improvement are immediately apparent and readily available. He can always seek out a more satisfying job to resolve workrelated problems. Financial consultants, eager to advise on income enhancement, will somehow materialize to help him "grow his money," and if he craves a better body, equally ardent exercise buffs will surface to tout the benefits of working out at the local Y or gym to firm up, tone up, and build bigger muscles.
But what if his problem is not fiscal or physical but sexual? What if he is not the man he once was because he is no longer able to have sexual intercourse with his wife or sexual partner? What does he do then?
After all, every man has been taught from the time he was quite young that sex is not just a source of pleasure but was so important that it was ordained in the Bible. The scriptural directive is clear and unambiguous: "A man . . . shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be one flesh" ( Genesis 1:23). For a man to cleave, his penis must swell and achieve an erection sufficient to allow for vaginal penetration. Then his penis remains firm during a period of thrusting until he ejaculates.