Sex and Power in Other Professional Relationships
I was referred to Dr. F., a highly regarded obstetrician/gynecologist, by a girlfriend who had just delivered twins through natural childbirth. It was at a time that natural deliveries were just beginning to come into vogue in this country and few physicians were willing to do them yet. I was not pregnant at the time but my husband and I wanted children and I thought that when the time came, I, too, would love to try this new approach to childbirth.
When I first met Dr. F. I remember being taken aback by him. He was a strikingly handsome man with a manner that was so gentle and sophisticated that any woman would have to be attracted to him. But as I came to know him better, it was clearly more than his looks and his manner that swept me off my feet; it was his patience with me and his willingness to talk as much as I needed to about my concerns about birth control, getting pregnant, and even starting a family. When he fitted me with a diaphragm, for example, I had a hard time manipulating it. Dr. F. was a very patient teacher and he would help me practice until I felt more capable of doing it correctly and quickly.
One time when I went to see Dr. F. I was still having trouble with